Embrace Your “Too Much” and Attract Dream Clients
Embrace Your “Too Much” and Attract Dream Clients
If you’ve ever felt like you’re just a little too passionate, ambitious, outspoken, or maybe even too YOU for the world to handle, this one’s for you.
We’re going to unpack this feeling of “too much” that so many heart-centered coaches and healers grapple with, how it stems from deep-rooted conditioning, and—most importantly—how to reframe it as your greatest asset. So, if you’re ready to own your unique qualities and stop playing small in your business, let’s go!
Where the Fear of Being “Too Much” Comes From
Society’s Need to Keep You in a Box
This “too much” feeling often starts young. For me, it was in kindergarten, being told to quiet down or stay in line. I remember sitting through nap times, wide awake, trying to chat with friends and connect, only to be labeled as too talkative, too bubbly, too “distracting.” Sound familiar?
In a world that often asks us to fit in, those of us who naturally stand out are told, from an early age, to dim our light. For coaches, healers, and service providers, this message can hit even harder because we’re usually driven to help, to support, and to connect deeply. This “too much” narrative can take root in ways that affect our ability to show up fully in our businesses.
People-Pleasers and High Achievers: The Perfect Storm
Many of us come from backgrounds where serving others is at the core of our work—whether as nurses, therapists, or other caregivers. In these roles, we’re taught to make others comfortable, to prioritize their needs above all. So when we transition into coaching or healing, this deep-seated need to please often follows us. It’s no wonder we sometimes fear taking up space or expressing ourselves authentically.
Exercise: Identify Where “Too Much” Began for You
Take a few deep breaths, close your eyes, and try to recall any memories of being told you were too much. Was it a teacher? A family member? Think about how that message shaped your beliefs about yourself and see what emotions or sensations come up. For me, it’s a heaviness in my chest and a clenched jaw—those signals from my body remind me just how deeply those early experiences took root.
The Cost of Playing Small
How Shrinking Down Disconnects You from Clients
When you believe you’re too much, it’s easy to hold back, play small, and worry about coming across as “too passionate” or “too loud.” But the truth is, your ideal clients are craving authenticity. They’re looking for a coach who feels real, who doesn’t edit or dim their light, who can show up boldly and lead by example.
When we play small, we deprive our audience of the chance to truly connect with us. Your clients don’t want a watered-down version of you—they want someone they can see themselves in, someone who isn’t afraid to show up fully and authentically.
Reframing “Too Much” as a Superpower
Somatic Tools to Break Free from This Belief
Our bodies store memories, especially those linked to limiting beliefs like “I’m too much.” To start breaking free from this belief, you need to address it on a somatic level—by tuning into your body and releasing those emotions physically. Here’s a somatic exercise you can try:
1. Ground Yourself with Breathwork
Sit quietly, take a few deep breaths, and notice any tightness, heaviness, or resistance in your body as you think about being “too much.”
2.Visualize Your Future Self
Picture a version of yourself who shows up fully, unapologetically, and powerfully. How does that energy feel in your body? Use this visualization as a touchstone to keep embodying that future self.
3.Journal Through It
Write down when you feel like you’re “too much.” Are there specific situations, emotions, or fears that come up? Acknowledge them and consider how they may be limiting your growth and self-expression.
Reclaiming Your “Too Much” with Affirmations
Affirmations are a powerful way to start rewriting your narrative. Try these on for size:
- “I am allowed to take up space.”
- “Being fully myself attracts the right people to me.”
- “My authenticity is my strength, not my weakness.”
- “When I lean into my ‘too much,’ I give others permission to do the same.”
Find the ones that resonate most with you and repeat them daily. Let these affirmations remind you that showing up as your full self isn’t just okay—it’s powerful.
Embracing the “Too Much” as a Gift
Why Being “Too Much” Makes You a Better Coach
When you bring your full self to your work, you create an environment where clients feel safe, seen, and inspired. Imagine being a coach who is passionately committed, deeply empathetic, and unapologetically authentic. Those are qualities that clients crave because they create a foundation of trust.
Being “too much” really just means you’re willing to go first, to set an example for your clients to feel comfortable doing the same. You become a lighthouse, guiding others by showing up boldly and authentically in your own life and business.
Practical Tips to Integrate and Celebrate Your “Too Much”
Now that you understand how “too much” can be a superpower, let’s look at some ways to integrate it into your business:
- Bring It to Your Marketing
Whether it’s an Instagram story, a blog post, or a coaching call, bring all parts of yourself forward. Use your “too much” to captivate, inspire, and lead.
- Highlight Your Strengths
Identify specific traits you were told were “too much”—quirky, bubbly, intense—and find ways to amplify them. If you’re naturally bubbly, bring that energy to your videos; if you’re a deep listener, create a container for your clients to feel heard.
- Celebrate It as a Practice
Show up with your full self in everyday interactions, not just in your business. Whether in a meeting, a social setting, or even with family, lead with the qualities you’ve been told to dial down and watch how people respond to your unapologetic authenticity.
Owning Your Authentic Power
In your business, especially in the world of coaching, being “too much” is often just another way of being powerful. When you embrace your natural self—quirks, passions, intensity—you allow others to see and resonate with the real you. And those are the exact qualities that will help your clients feel safe, inspired, and ready to grow.
I’d love to support you on that journey. I’m opening up spots for my 1:1 Coaching and Mentorship in January. If you’re ready to step into your fullest, most vibrant self,
